It is most obvious what your biggest mistake was. However, although it was a thoughtless error not only on your behalf, but also your partner's, it is safe to say that the way you handled it was the best way. I know that abortion is an option and solution that you and others have considered during pregnancy, but, for now, I’m not writing this to force my own “right and just” opinion on you. What you did was your own ethical choice in life. Putting that baby up for adoption was, for you and for others, a good decision. You had already found someone who wanted a child to raise for themselves, a loving and caring mother. It is true that most babies may not be so fortunate, but in your situation Juno, you made the right call. I understand that the reason why you decided to hand off the baby to someone else is because you knew that you and your partner were not ready to start a family. The two of you were still in your teenage adolescent years. However, it is because of this reason that I believe we should take the time to discuss the root of this whole problem.
I’m sure you understand the obvious mistake you and your partner made together, and why it is frowned upon in society. It is the truth that the two of you were not ready to start a family. It is because of this truth that the two of you shouldn’t even be sexually active. However, that is another opinion that I will no longer attempt to force upon you. If you felt fine with being sexually active, especially before your first pregnancy, then surely you must’ve considered that pregnancy was a possibility. It is strange that you did not make sure that there was any protection whatsoever before or during intercourse. Surely, you must have payed enough attention in your sexual education that somewhere along the way you came across the idea that sex, at times and under certain circumstances, can lead to a baby. But being blinded by lust and curiosity can, at times, lead to thoughtless and reckless actions. The two of you may have gotten bored. That is understandable, somewhat.
Now, as for what I would have done if I were in a similar situation like let’s say, I became a father. Now, in your story, your partner, Bleeker, practically did nothing. He impregnated you and almost left you. Not so very supportive. In the end, the two of you finally figured out each other's feelings, and that’s great. But, in my similar hypothetical situation, I would be forced to support this baby unless the mother decides to turn to a different solution. In general, I would completely agree with whatever solution the mother has for the pregnancy because, although it may be our child, it is still inside her own body. That’s what I would do. In a different situation, say we switch roles, if I were to somehow become an impregnated woman, which the thought alone startles me, I truly and honestly believe that it all depends on the circumstances. I know that supporting the child is almost out of the question, it is something that I am not ready for. Abortion is something I personally frown upon. So, to me, adoption is really the only option. Now, to make something very clear, I would never think of putting my child up for adoption as a way of getting rid of the mistake, no, perish the thought. I want this child to live a happy life, with parental figures that can truly make him/her happy, because the child itself was not the mistake, but instead us, the parents, for we were not prepared. Now this, Juno, is what you did. And although you may not have found the perfect adopting family, there really isn’t a perfect family out there anyways.
It is most obvious what your biggest mistake was. However, although it was a thoughtless error not only on your behalf, but also your partner's, it is safe to say that the way you handled it was the best way. I know that abortion is an option and solution that you and others have considered during pregnancy, but, for now, I’m not writing this to force my own “right and just” opinion on you. What you did was your own ethical choice in life. Putting that baby up for adoption was, for you and for others, a good decision. You had already found someone who wanted a child to raise for themselves, a loving and caring mother. It is true that most babies may not be so fortunate, but in your situation Juno, you made the right call. I understand that the reason why you decided to hand off the baby to someone else is because you knew that you and your partner were not ready to start a family. The two of you were still in your teenage adolescent years. However, it is because of this reason that I believe we should take the time to discuss the root of this whole problem.
I’m sure you understand the obvious mistake you and your partner made together, and why it is frowned upon in society. It is the truth that the two of you were not ready to start a family. It is because of this truth that the two of you shouldn’t even be sexually active. However, that is another opinion that I will no longer attempt to force upon you. If you felt fine with being sexually active, especially before your first pregnancy, then surely you must’ve considered that pregnancy was a possibility. It is strange that you did not make sure that there was any protection whatsoever before or during intercourse. Surely, you must have payed enough attention in your sexual education that somewhere along the way you came across the idea that sex, at times and under certain circumstances, can lead to a baby. But being blinded by lust and curiosity can, at times, lead to thoughtless and reckless actions. The two of you may have gotten bored. That is understandable, somewhat.
Now, as for what I would have done if I were in a similar situation like let’s say, I became a father. Now, in your story, your partner, Bleeker, practically did nothing. He impregnated you and almost left you. Not so very supportive. In the end, the two of you finally figured out each other's feelings, and that’s great. But, in my similar hypothetical situation, I would be forced to support this baby unless the mother decides to turn to a different solution. In general, I would completely agree with whatever solution the mother has for the pregnancy because, although it may be our child, it is still inside her own body. That’s what I would do. In a different situation, say we switch roles, if I were to somehow become an impregnated woman, which the thought alone startles me, I truly and honestly believe that it all depends on the circumstances. I know that supporting the child is almost out of the question, it is something that I am not ready for. Abortion is something I personally frown upon. So, to me, adoption is really the only option. Now, to make something very clear, I would never think of putting my child up for adoption as a way of getting rid of the mistake, no, perish the thought. I want this child to live a happy life, with parental figures that can truly make him/her happy, because the child itself was not the mistake, but instead us, the parents, for we were not prepared. Now this, Juno, is what you did. And although you may not have found the perfect adopting family, there really isn’t a perfect family out there anyways.
Sincerely,
Chris O.